You’ve probably heard the hype by now and you may think you don’t have to worry about it, but if you have teens or preteens, take another look. So many of us- well-meaning parents, have found out that our children have watched these episodes of “13 Reasons Why” on Netflix already either at home, on their phone, on a friend’s phone, at a friend’s house or even at school. You’d be surprised. I just found out my teen watched it on her friend’s phone at her Christian home school group because her friend was watching it on her phone throughout their lunch.
It triggers suicidal thoughts! Face it, we really don’t know everything going on in our children’s lives – we think we do, but with social media, cell phones, computers, etc, our children have access to everything -and they know how to hide everything.
Increases self harm- Triggers more cutting. Our kids our cutting themselves, inflicting pain to escape their own mental pain and this show will only make it worse. If you see your child in any state of depression, check them for cutting. They are now cutting themselves in areas you wouldn’t look . So sad! It seems the internet, cell phones and social media have stolen our children from us. It’s gotten out of control.
God’s word says to be wise to what is good and simple to what is evil. Turn their focus on God, pray for them.
It does more harm than good. Alexandra Contrades-Lacyat change.org said “After finishing the series, I became depressed and was suicidal for the first time in a year. This show was a trigger. Yes, I will take responsibility that I watched this on my free will. The difference is that I am taking action. This show makes teenagers believe that no one out there will help” Please take time to SIGN HER PETITION and get this show off the air : https://www.change.org/p/selena-gomez-remove-13-reasons-why-from-netflix,
To stop the lying! “No, mom, I haven’t watched it ” Many moms have NO idea their children have already seen almost every episode and mama, you have no idea. My daughter said she watched the first episode on her friend’s phone. A friend of mine, who is always on top of everything her children do, had no idea her daughter had watched all 14 episodes on her school laptop. Talk with your teens and preteens. Check your Netflix accounts to see what has been viewed at home.
This is another enemy tactic to destroy your children. The thief comes to kill, still and destroy, but God wants our children to have life and to live in life abundantly -not to suffer in torment and depression. Turn on Praise music, remember how the tormenting spirits left King Saul when David would play His harp.
It glorifies and romanticizes suicide and mental illness. “Suicide is romanticized and almost glorified in this show, as Hannah reclaims control of her life by ending it ” according to Leah Murphy at http://lifeteen.com/blog/watch-13-reasons/ Read linked post for more information.
This show doesn’t teach them to correctly deal with pressure, depression, stress, feelings of hopelessness, suicidal thoughts and bullying. Get help and/or get out of that situation.
Because you LOVE them. It’s so easy to look the other way, isn’t it? Every effort you make for your child makes a difference. Talk to them. I know everyone thinks their child doesn’t lie, but go through their phones, laptops and see what they’ve been looking up. Also be aware of the new fad the blue whale challenge BWC: http://www.palmbeachpost.com/news/blue-whale-challenge-warnings-sent-parents-about-suicide-game/sVqvIb50Ycf2vMNlx8E9AP/ ****** See short video below on BWC, warning have gone out all over the county and school systems on this.
Because it’s your responsibility, a great gift from God that He has entrusted this child to you. Guard your children. I’ve read comments from parents and counselors that this show has already killed children. SAVE YOUR CHILDREN
Because suicide is not entertainment and neither is mental illness. This show is harmful and defined by others as disgusting- a show that glorifies rape, graphic content ,suicide, sexual conduct, drinking, f words, lots of sex among young high school sophomores.
Sends the wrong message to teens. Promotes feelings of hopelessness and no promotion of help or resources for their suffering.
You must guard their hearts. And I’m calling BS (Bull shark) on everyone who says they think this show was unintentional and it was originally meant to be a well intended show. Shame on you pluggin in! Your reviews are far from Christian anyways.
If you’ve discovered that your child has watched the show, don’t get angry. Use the time to open up and talk about it. Don’t let it go by without replacing the lies with truth.
Watch the short video below to see a clear picture of what this show is about.
How can we make a difference? Cancelling your Netflix account or sending them an email might make a difference. Netflix: 1-866-579-7172
Lord, Crush and destroy this show and any show that tries to destroy your people and your children. Do not let another episode air and keep every child from seeing it. Take this show down in total destruction. Protect all the children suffering and give them hope and a new found joy in You. In Jesus name, amen
As I researched this and read comments from parents, counselors and teen I was distraught, shocked and saddened. So many people have had loved ones die of suicide and this show was a factor. Many said this show was the reason for the suicidal deaths of their children, friends and patients. It’s more dangerous than I could have imagined. Read though some of the comments on the petition listed on #4, (you might have to sign the petition first) and you’ll read a few first hand reports on how this has affected lives of so many.
I received two emails yesterday on a new game children are playing ( and just found out kids are playing this game in my child’s class- as young as 8) It’s similar to using the oujia board and from reports, the children are becoming possessed. The game only needs a sheet of paper and 2 pencils, they call on a spirit to move the pencils to answer the question. Here’s the newest fad and information, please pass on the warning to others. I listed 3 sources below, please take the time to review link – unfortunately we must warn even the youngest ones from these dangers. ( I would be careful when watching the videos)
The name has been searched on Google more than any other event. Teens have even been posting videos of them doing the “Charlie, Charlie Challenge.”The game has been around for a long time in Latin America, although it is just now recently gaining popularity here through social media.
A new occultic social media trend has gone viral, challenging kids to attempt to summon a demon.The homemade game is similar to using a Oujia board, and it’s called the “Charlie Charlie Challenge.”It involves putting two pencils on a piece of paper in the shape of a cross, and writing the words “yes” and “no” in the boxes outlined by the pencils.The participants then summon what they say is a Mexican demon called Charlie, attempting to ask him questions for guidance for their lives.**CB
Spanish exorcist Jose Antonio Fortea told ACI Prensa that the so-called #CharlieCharlieChallenge involves the very real, occult practice of “calling on spirits.”In an interview May 27, he warned that “some spirits who are at the root of that practice will harass some of those who play the game.” Even though the priest thinks that players “won’t be possessed” necessarily, the spirit that has been invoked “will stay around for a while.”Fr. Fortea also warned that playing the game “will result in other spirits beginning to enter into even more frequent communication.”“And so then the person really can suffer much worse consequences from the demons,” he said.Catholic experts have noted that occult activity and the resulting need for exorcisms has reached a critical level worldwide.The International Association of Exorcists (AIE) met for their 12th annual conference in Rome last October. According to AIE spokesperson Dr. Valter Cascioli, an increasing number of bishops and cardinals asked to participate in the conference due to an increase in demonic activity.
And do not let your people practice fortune-telling, or use sorcery, or interpret omens, or engage in witchcraft,or cast spells, or function as mediums or psychics, or call forth the spirits of the dead.Anyone who does these things is detestable to the Lord. DT 18:10
The nations you are about to displace consult sorcerers and fortune-tellers, but the Lordyour God forbids you to do such things.Deuteronomy 18:14
When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures,idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division,envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Galations 5:19-20
Many who became believers confessed their sinful practices.A number of them who had been practicing sorcery brought their incantation books and burned them at a public bonfire. Acts 19:19
Household gods give worthless advice,fortune-tellers predict only lies, and interpreters of dreams pronounce falsehoods that give no comfort. So my people are wandering like lost sheep; they are attacked because they have no shepherd.Zechariah 10:2
I will put an end to all witchcraft, and there will be no more fortune-tellers Micah 5:12
Hi, I’m the “Meanest Mom in the World”. That’s what I hear when a take a phone away or delete a new app. Ask me if I care- because I don’t.
(3-21-14 update: feds bust graphic child porn ring, 14 men in Louisiana arrested. The men, pretending to be young girls on popular social sites, enticed young boys to send graphic material, pictures and video. 250 victims in 39 states and five other countries — Australia, Belgium, Britain, Canada and New Zealand. Most were boys between the ages of 13 and 15. Two victims were 3 or younger. Sources: huffingtonpost.com, cnsnews.com , rawstory.com. )
Parents, do you know what your kids are doing? The world has offered our children a wide variety of apps and social media outlets that we don’t even know about. They are interrupting our lives, corrupting our kids and sadly have driven many to depression and suicidal deaths. Maybe some of you know what’s up, but when I ask around every mom has given me one of these answers:
What? I never heard of that, my child would never….
Or I just don’t have time to figure it all out, I don’t understand those things
Or I can’t control my kids anymore
I didn’t know how to work the iphone, android or any of the other apps either, but I figured it out. I press every single button on everything ( I know what every button on every remote does) and that’s how I figure out what my children are doing. I see what their friends are doing and I know their parents have NO IDEA. So basically, if you have eyeballs and hands with digits, you can find out what your child is up to.
What’s the big deal? They are just kids having fun. That is not what is going on. I’ve read about classmates wanting to commit suicide, seen indecent pictures, read foul language, bullying and everything you wouldn’t want your child to see or hear- that is what is going on. Parents are in denial and so are the schools. There are ways of hiding the apps so parents don’t see.
Let’s review a few that are popular:
KIK– another social site used to send messages. A LOT of kids have this. Please watch the video below on Kik. Kik allows for other media sites within it. As of November 2012, KIK began a rating of 17+ because of all the apps that connect within KIK that a parent would never know about. It is an app for adults only. Police have alerted parents of the increased incidents of adults finding children through KIK- along with bullying, sexting and graphic porn. (see warning video) Each one of these sites poses a danger. In Kik, anyone with your child’s username or email can find your child. (same with Askfm) This is absolutely not for children, there are no parental controls. It scans all your email contacts also (that so annoys me). With KIK, you don’t need to have a phone number or share your number, but as a parent, it is much easier to monitor the text messages than to find out what is going on in KIK. For more information and dangers click here : TheCyberSafetylady.com Why KiK is unsafe for kids Danger of Instagram and KIK, thetreenetwork.com
Askfm-“My child doesn’t have that!” That’s exactly what I thought! You’d never know your child had an account unless they told you or you searched the history of your computer (hopefully they don’t know how delete history) On this site, anyone can ask your child anything anonymously. Questions like- why don’t you like so and so and why did you say this to someone along with other personal sexual questions or “are you upset you weren’t invited to a party?”. The children on askfm are 13 and under- and they shouldn’t be here. I’ve seen my daughter’s friend’s questions on this site and I was shocked. They’ve been on it for over a year and when I brought it up with the parents they had never heard of the site and were convinced their child would never be on it. It’s not easy to find your child on there unless you know their username. Most kids use their instagram name. Even if your child isn’t on Askfm, friends gossip about everyone and love to ask personal questions and secrets about their friends. Since it’s anonymous, anyone can pretend to be whoever. An example of a question I’ve seen on this site is “you are stupid and ugly, why don’t you kill yourself?” and maybe add an lol after it. Some will say “why are you so fat and ugly?”. For more information on Askfm: The Cybersafetylady.com Askfm and cyber bullying
Instagram – It’s like a safe facebook, right? Wrong. For starters, everyone on instagram is trying to out do the other with – who is with who, who has what, and who is at what party. It’s an app “all about me”. Two things that bother me about instagram are #1 it can hurt others and make them feel unworthy (yes it does, it makes it seem like everyone else has a better life) and #2 the hashtags easily open up doors to porn. I saw so much porn on there I couldn’t believe it. Naked pictures all over the place with the simpliest most naïve hashtag. What’s a hashtag? It’s when you want to relate you picture to file like #goodtimes or #fatdays. You click the hashtag and it opens up every pic everyone else has used the same word. Whether you are private or not, it doesn’t matter. Porn is always available. The kids think its great when they have 100’s of likes and followers, but they don’t realize most are (unknown male) adults following them (and probably storing their pictures). You cannot control the comments people make on your pictures, there are no parental controls, anyone can use your picture and store it. It gets grosser- (pedophile warning) but for more information on the dangers of instagram check out :Babble.com A Parent’s guide to social media and Quiz- Are you smarter than a 5th grader on instagram?
***if your have your child delete their account, keep watch because many open a new account under a new name without their parents seeing. I’ve seen this with Instagram and twitter.
SnapChat- this is a sexting app for kids- although they don’t originally think so- but you don’t need to think too much to figure it out. Do you know what snapchat is? It looks so innocent. Snapchat is a way to send pictures and short video but it is immediately deleted- so no one can see it, trace it, copy it, prove they sent it or saw it. The parent has NO IDEA what their child just saw or read. I happened to open one of my daughters snap chat and the girl had called her a “bitch”. If you go on snapchat and try to see anything they opened- you can’t. It only has a 1-10 second viewing time so you can’t share or take a picture of it. What the point of this? It keeps parents out of their business and gives them complete privacy to do whatever they want. For more information: Ottawa Police Warn Teens about dangers of snapchat and nbc-2.com New Snapchat app worrying parents
According to the site : “Wattpad is a place to discover and share stories: a social platform that connects people through words. It is a community that spans borders, interests, languages. With Wattpad, anyone can read or write on any device: phone, tablet, or computer.” Wattpad sounds like a great idea, but there are NO FILTERS on language or the sexual filth that the kids are reading. Unbelievable! I couldn’t find any information or warnings out there on this, but I can tell you that I just read a chapter that my young teen was reading and I’m furious. I thought she was reading a book she had on her kindle and here she is reading garbage some nobody out there is writing – full of f-word, sexuality and it goes as far as the imagination will go. The kids can read this on their phones, kindles or any thing that has internet access. They can pretend they are reading a book and quickly delete the history and what they’ve just read.
Wattpad would be a good idea in a sinless perfect world. I’ve read that most of the writers and readers are under 17. I cannot believe there are not more warnings out there on this. What is this world going to come to with all garbage going into the minds of our youth??????????????? I mean, we already have teens suicidal, depressed and people trying to eat each other. Just last month a man bit a half a ladies face off, what are my
kids going to see in another 20 years? Fanfiction is similar to Wattpad, but on fanfiction they write about their fantasies they have about their idols, bands, bieber, one direction, blah, blah, blah. I can’t take the stupidity here much longer…. You do know they get carried away with this stuff, I mean one guy married a cartoon figure he was in love with. For more information: Meansstotheend.wordpress.com PARENTS BEWARE
Qoohme: This is site similar to Askfm. Anyone who finds you interesting can ask you anything. It is not supposed to be for children, but children and adults are both there alongside each other. Check out the site linked here and see the comments, you will understand the dangers more clearly: BarrieBramley.com If you’re a parent, you had better know Qoohme
Twitter: I haven’t seen a lot of twitter, personally I never understood it. If it’s more than a waste of time for your kids, someone fill me in. Twitter has addicts, but so does facebook. Twitter is old news, like Tumblr (microbloggin) Hohum. Next!
Oovoo—I’m still learing about this. I took my daughters phone away because it was distracting her and I find out she’s been on oovoo for three hours on my laptop video chatting with her friends when she told me she was studying. Seriously, I’m mad. You know why? Because the computer and phones are stealing our children away from us. (sounds like voodoo) Police have sent out warnings on oovoo because the children are easy targets for online predators. They can contact your child through text. Computer virus and malware problems have been reported with oovoo downloads . For more information read:Internetsafetyproject.org Oovoo and articlesbase.com Should my teen be using oovoo Dioceseofbmt.org Safeenvironment parent training
Vine: Short videos. Vine is rated 17+ because of the Innapropriate content: language, sex, nudity, sex, drugs and more. It is supposed to be for ages 17 and up, but kids age 8 and up are using it. Easy for strangers to see videos posted. It’s a microversion of youtube. From the Cybersafetylady.com: “Dangers: Your child may attract with adults who will follow the child’s account, find out where the video was taken, via location services or Geo Location. Share the video with their networks. There is quite a bit of Porn on the App. Within 15 minutes of scrolling through the most popular video feed, a video of a erect penis literally “popped” up on my screen. Abuse in comments. No parental controls. Lots of swearing and rude videos.”
Keek: Is really for ages 17+ and children 13+ must have permission. This is a video sharing app. Dangers and more information from the Cybersafetylady.com :Adults can subscribe to your child’s updates, view all their content and find out where they live through Geo Location. Comment on their video’s. No privacy settings or restrictions to adult content. NOT for kids. No parental controls. -Update: 16th June 2013:The Local Area Police here on the Northern Beaches Sydney Australia, spoke at my recent cyber safety edu talk, they informed us that Kik Messenger was now the social media app that was causing them the most problems. Parents and schools have been contacting the police about Kik messenger and Instagram reporting incidents of pedophile approaches and bullying, including young children setting up “Fake” accounts to humiliate and bully other young children. Both these apps were being used more frequently by under aged kids, and they were seeing increased problems in primary schools ”
Reddit Reddit users submit links or text, which are voted up or down by other users. Content is ranked to determine the post’s position on the front page. All the content is organized into categories known as “sub-reddits.” This site is more popular with boys, who are using the app less as a social network than as a source of news and as a search engine. The forum-like interaction means your teen can “talk” to anyone. PheedPheed allows users to share all forms of digital content in 420 character or less. Teens are the primary users of Pheed, which is one of the top apps in the iPhone store. Each user gets their own channel where they can post their content publicly or privately. In addition to the social media aspects like Facebook, Pheed is a full service broadcast medium. Users can share audio tracks and live broadcasts. Your teenager could conceivably live-stream every waking moment on Pheed. I think we’ve all seen that episode of “Law & Order.” Users can also charge for access to the channel. A profit motive and under-developed judgment? What could possibly go wrong? WaneloWanelo — which stands for “Want, need, love” — is Instagram-meets-shopping and the dream app of many teenage girls. Users post images of and links to products, which are then bought, saved, tagged and shared by other users. When enough users tag a product, a store page is created. Users can follow stores and get updates when new products from those stores are posted. Wanelo is a wonderful tool to find out exactly what your 14-year-old daughter wants for her birthday. Serious threats to your bank balance here. 4Chan4chan is a simple forum platform. Anyone can post images on bulletin boards, and anyone can comment. Similar to Reddit, the boards are dedicated to a variety of topics, but here users do not need to create an account to participate in the community. Anonymity can create extremely hostile environments online, so if your teenager is using 4chan, you’ll want to have conversations about how to deal with virtual aggression.
STATS: 1 in 6 admits to sexting(admits only) for more information: mpoweredparent.com stats from: Zillydilly.com: · 53% of teens who sext are girls, 47% are guys · 48% of teens report they have received a sexually suggestive message · 39% of teens have sent a sext · Teens who have sexted a nude or semi-nude picture of themselves – 22% girls, 18% guys · 11% of girls aged 13-16 have sexted nude or semi-nude photos of themselves · Most teens sext their boyfriend/girlfriend, but many also sext crushes, friends and even people they don’t know TEEN SUICIDE: statisticbrain.com teen suicide info from CDC 4600 children commit suicide each year, 157,000 are medically treated for self inflicted injuries, 81% are male- based on ages 10-24.
WHAT DO I DO?
What can be done about it? You can try to put stops and filters on everything, but doesn’t that seem like a lot of work? Besides, the kids know how to get around that. Take their phones away after school and when they don’t need it. Keep a watchful eye on every text and email that goes through. Get them involved in sports, clubs or something to distract them from the social media addictions.
Do you think you owe your kids privacy? It’s our business and our responsibility to raise and teach our children, to protect them and watch over them. They have the rest of their lives to live in privacy but under my roof- for the few years I have left – I watch them and protect them. That’s our job. Sure, it’s not “politically correct” . This world would want you to give the kids all the freedom they want. They can have an abortion under your roof and you have no right to know. As a Christian, we are taught to be different, to be a new creation, to be of the Word and not of the World.
Above all else, guard your (child’s) heart, for everything you (they) do flows from it. Keep your mouth free of perversity; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your(their) feet and be steadfast in all your (their) ways. (Teach them) To not turn to the right or the left; (Help them) keep your (their) foot from evil.
Guard their hearts. Do your best to watch over what they see, do and where they go. Keep them on the right path.
I’ve read that colleges are now checking student’s online social media’s posting -new and old. Get in their business. I know a lot of parents won’t agree with me, but for those of you who listen and who care- find out what they are watching on youtube, tv, the music they are listening to and what they are reading and learning in school. My daughter told me that her book for reading class is not allowed to come home and there are no notes I can review on what she is learning. She told me she is reading about a pregnant teenager this week and last week and the week before they read stories about Glee and homosexuality. This is all part of the “common core” reading. Glee? Are you kidding me? With all the millions of books out there, my kids is studying Glee. Common Core is creating American Zombies – all believing the same thing with no thought process of our own. Islam is being taught yearly with lies deceiving all the kids. I don’t want my kids to be American Zombies. Take a stand and do something. I know one parent who has every text his daughter receives sent straight to his phone. I think that is a great idea. I have caught my daughter deleting texts and I know drama is going on. I want to be there to help and guide her. I’m not standing over her as a tyrant, but to guide her in her ways and show her how to handle situations the right way before they get out of hand. ‘Many parents are unaware of the amount of time their children are online. Statistics show 52 percent of children spend 5 or more hours a day online. 58% of tweens say they know how to keep their online use a secret and a quarter admitted they had cleared or hidden what they have done online’ For more information: Stats from Reuters.com Social Media and Tweens
Good News!!! Starting June 15th, for the next three Saturday nights, the award-winning CBN series “Superbook” will be airing on CBS! Superbook has been a blessing in our home. The series teaches God’s words and truth to children. The Superbook dvd’s have inspired my children to want to learn more and they add to our family bible readings.
Spread the word! Tell your church, friends and neighbors to watch this special programming.
Superbook brings the stories of the bible alive and, to add a plus to it, my children prefer it over their other movies. It’s refreshing to have a good clean show for our children and share God’s word with the world . I’m no expert, but I’d say the dvd’s are good for children ages 4-8- but I make everyone watch them 🙂 . The first series begins with the story of David and Goliath , the next Saturday, June 22nd, is Jonah and the third is Roar! Daniel in the lion’s den. I know you will enjoy them. and Hey! they are in spanish – Superlibro.
Saturday Evening on CBS
June 15th, 22nd, and 29th (30 min)